I completely agree on “misses” vs “failures”. I would rather err on the side of caution and so I’m trying to teach myself that when they miss, they always get what they’re after and I work on complicating that victory and then work my way deeper from that. The end goal for me is to give them what they want as a default approach, and then occasionally hit them harder when it’s not a jerk move and I can make their lives way more interesting with it.