Hans Messersmith well… I can tell you that I was that guy. Now I understand the use of the tools and how to have fun while also protecting others. Before I had a good understanding of the tools, what everyone seems to be preaching was that it’s either the injured players way and fuck you GM! I don’t give a fuck about your prep! I don’t give a fuck about your fun! I don’t like violence so figure out another way to entertain me. This is a wildly inappropriate misunderstanding but I see the community failing to address these concerns. It’s just, “you’re an asshat if you don’t use these tools.” We need better language to talk to those who could be convinced. But I’m here to tell you, if I had met you instead of the great people who taught me, I would be part of ShitlordCon. Not because I’m an asshole, not because I don’t care about my players, but because you labeled me as an asshat who doesn’t care about my players. We need to be better than that or we’re just a different kind of asshat.