Paul Beakley – I’m having a difficult time being charitable here, because when you talk about a thing I’ve been invited to as explicitly yours, as opposed to ours, then you’ve already gone a long way towards losing me.

EDIT: There is one facet of that argument that I am sympathetic to, and that’s “sometimes people just aren’t good fits for each other” I don’t think there’s much wrong with saying, “It doesn’t look like either of us will have much fun if we continue to play together”. But I reject your notion that using safety tools isn’t helpful. You’ll need a larger conversation in addition to the tools, but they can make people realize that that conversation is necessary much sooner than without them.