If someone at my table doesn’t want spiders in the game, I’m probably just going to go with what they ask without demanding they show me their “very real was-trapped-in-dark-space-with-spiders-as-a-child trauma” membership card. Like… I’m just here to roll dice and pretend to be a space monkey, I have no horse in the social Darwinism “you’ll take your trauma, be stronger for it, and you’ll LIKE IT” race.